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Moving Through Emotions with Grace and Ease

Traditionally, we’ve dealt with our emotions by questioning their validity. We’ve operated as if some emotions were okay to feel and some were not… Those that were okay to feel, our valid emotions, were those we had good enough reasons to feel. When we question the validity of our emotions, we’re diminishing the value of our emotional experience and making our emotions subordinate to our thinking,,,In order to no longer be a victim of circumstance you need to understand that all your emotions are valid merely because you feel them.

Deciding Without Judging

Recently, I’ve had a falling out with a member of my family of origin, the result being that we are no longer in contact with each other. I’ve gone through a lot of emotions about this and I have reached a place where now I want to just be okay with it. It’s been very challenging to get my mind around this. I’ve found it very difficult to let go of my expectations of how families should be with each other… At this point I found it helpful for me to run through an exercise. This was to think about how it was possible to understand how my relative could reasonably arrive at their position. Without giving you the details I was able to figure out how this position was a “reasonable decision” given temperament and experience, just as my position is “reasonable” for me given my temperament and subjective experience. My sense of this may or may not be accurate, but it helped me to develop compassion for my relative, who was making choices I don’t prefer but that were gradually becoming ones I can live with. Finally, I’d like to share some insights I realized through this process that you might find useful…

When the Unexpected Happens

No big deal, but when he told me… I noticed that I felt a slight feeling of annoyance. I wondered what was going on for me … it occurred to me that whenever anything unexpected happens I feel more or less annoyed by it. Not a big revelation, but I thought that I had learned to go with the flow better than that, especially about little things… and realizing that I was wasting a lot of energy feeling bad, I decided to examine it more closely… it dawned on me that my “problem” only existed in so much as I identified with my body/mind.